On the international Mother’s Day, social media fills up with poems, appraisals and touching pictures to thank you and honor mothers. Quite rightly so, mothers do deserve to be thanked and appreciated. They deserve that every day of the year but no harm done in dedicating a special day for recognition of their love and dedication.
The older I get the more I’ve started appreciating my own mother and also telling her how much she means to me. I’ve always known she’s an excellent mother but it took me many years before I learned to tell it to her. I’ve always been a daddy’s daughter and over the years have treasured the special relationship and bond I have with both. The years abroad have also opened my eyes to realizing how extremely lucky I have been and am, to have such loving and caring parents, who support me no matter what, with unconditional love.
My mother has always been my role model, enduring much physical caused by her rheumatism without letting the illness be on her way. She completed higher education at a mature age and started climbing up the career ladder without ever letting the well-being of the family be compromised. I never felt she sacrificed her own well-being for us though, I’ve always felt she’s been fully present in the moment, loving us and living her life at the same time.
Not all mothers have equal chances for being a good mother. Or even being a mother. In Finland the push for a motherhood law is a hot topic currently, which when legalized will give the right to more women for being the mother they want to be, by recognizing the motherhood of not only the birth mother but the spouse as well. For mothers are not made through giving birth to a child, but in raising up the child, providing unconditional love and guidance for growing up to be a good person.
A good friend in Thailand just became a mother of twins, which were borne by a surrogate mother. Pregnancy is not a prerequisite for becoming a mother. My love to my mother is not because she carried me in her belly for 9 months. Those 9 months were just a start for our life-long journey but equally a motherhood can start at a later stage.
I hope this mother’s day, we’d remember to recognize all mother’s for their love and support to their children – no matter how and when they became mothers. There is no one way of being a true mother, or being a good mother. I have enormous respect to all women in the world who have taken on the difficult task of bringing up a child. And same for all those men who are giving their everything in their roles as fathers. Being parents. Parent is a great term, in being gender-neutral and open for 1, 2 or many. Parent, in general, is what a child needs and deserves. Whether it’s one or more, women or men, is of lesser importance.
My mom and dad have been great parents to me and my brother, and for that I’m eternally grateful. My love for them isn’t conditional for us sharing the same genes, and for them being a woman and a man. I love my parents because they are amazing individuals, who have provided me with a safe and loving environment to grow up, the mental and physical support I have needed and their unconditional love.
In addition to this special Mother’s Day, I’d love to start celebrating a Parent’s Day – gender neutral, allowing for equal appreciation and respect and love to be shown to all the parents in the world. With this, to all the mothers and fathers of the world, thank you for your love and efforts. To my mom and dad, from the bottom of my heart, I love, respect and appreciate you.