In my yoga class yesterday I for the first time was able to stand an arm-balancing pose which had always just seemed impossible. Only for a few seconds, but still, it gave me the realization these poses are not impossible. I need to practice, learn the technique and most importantly, believe in myself.
It’s so easy to mark something as impossible and not even try. “Oh I can’t do that” is the easy way out, where as putting in the hours for practicing and conquering the embarrassment and frustration is much harder – but so much more rewarding too.
We all have self-esteem and confidence in certain things and hesitate in others. I’ve always loved exercising but have kept doing sports in which I’m good at and to which my body naturally reacts positively to. I’ve purposefully avoided sports which are not within my strengths, such as yoga where flexibility would be an obvious advantage, or group sports where I’ve been afraid of letting the team down if I fail. My fear of embarrassing my self and making a fool out of myself has led to me keeping up with my strengths but not improving my weaknesses, which is needed for true development.
The same is true in private life, at work, in other hobbies. We tend to avoid things where we are not strong at and hence keep ourselves from improving skills and also from the joy that comes from conquering something “impossible”.
When I learned to dive and became a very avid scuba diver, meaning getting over my life-long fear of going underwater, I took a giant leap in trusting myself and learning to live fully. I realized then that I’m much stronger and more capable than I ever had thought of. Maybe not “I can do anything” but I can try to do anything.
I’m making a choice now to stop saying what I can’t do and explore how I can do it. Next step is learning a head stand in yoga – not impossible, just hard. After that, maybe continuing with Thai or Vietnamese lessons. Difficult, but doable. I might also play goal attack in netball although I’m bad at shooting – because through practicing I can get better.
What are you going to do? Give up without trying or giving your best shot, trusting yourself and building up your self-confidence?